Cracking Guy Code: How To Start A Conversation With A Guy

Freeze up when you’re talking to guys? No sweat! Learn how to strike up convos with any guy and where you can find cool lads to chat with.

When John Gray said, “Men are from Mars, women are from Venus,” perhaps some assumed learning how to start a conversation with a guy might be akin to making contact with aliens for the first time. But John Gray was mistaken: We all come from Earth.

While “gender-specific” expectations and social practices have led to distinct communication styles, all individuals leave a unique imprint on the broader spectrum of conversational idiosyncrasy — regardless of gender identity. With that in mind, we will delve into how to read and interpret the communication patterns men generally exhibit.

Here, you'll learn how to find cool guys on platforms like Azar and lead a natural and comfortable conversation, enhancing your communication skills and social connectedness across the board.

Where Are All The Guys Hanging Out?

Here's a fun fact: Over the past 22 years, there have consistently been more men than women worldwide. That means if you're looking for a guy, you're marginally more likely to find one than a girl.
New male friends from across the globe can expose you to different cultures and languages — and they may put a slightly different spin on their experiences than the girls. You'll find guys hanging out both online and offline. So, here are a few places to look for new male companions.

Online Platforms

Chatting with guys online takes the pressure off stepping outdoors to find one. Online interactions keep the vibes light and casual. You can open dialogue in a text conversation, through video chat, messaging or even memes.

Azar

Azar is a popular one-to-one video chat platform that connects you with new faces around the world in the swish of a finger. There's a high chance you'll meet a ton of cool guys to chat with.

Through the ‘Azar Lounge’ feature you can browse profiles to discover interesting guys to chat with, while advanced algorithms enhance your matching experience. Azar also offers on-device automated tools to protect users from harmful content and foster a sense of security in the community.
Once you've created a free account, optionally set preferences to 'male,' and start chatting with guys instantly. Easy!

Offline Spaces

If you're interested in meeting guys face-to-face, here are more ideas for getting in touch locally.

Interest Groups

Interest groups are a great way to meet men in your area who are passionate about the same things as you. If you live by the beach, you'll find guys at your local surf or dive club. In the mountains, there are often hiking or mountain biking groups that set off to explore on weekends.

Check local noticeboards, media ads or even at your nearest college campus to learn about new events. And don't worry if you're new — plenty of people in interest groups will be happy to offer a helping hand as you get started.

Volunteering

If you want to meet local guys while giving back to the community, volunteering may be the way to go. From community events and animal shelters to hospices and youth support, opportunities to make caring new male friends are endless.

The Art of the Conversation Starter

So now you know where to meet guys, how do you initiate conversation? There are nuances between striking up a chat in person and online. In this section, we'll discuss ways to open and maintain a good conversation with men in various situations.

Online One-to-One Meets

Meeting online is one of the most common ways to find new guys in the technological era. You can connect face-to-face and lead a highly engaging conversation without leaving the comfort of your home, which is convenient for many. Depending on the area where you live, it can also add a layer of personal safety to your interactions.

Once you've found a guy you'd like to chat with, get to know one another by asking about his interests. Or better yet, find platforms that introduce you to people who already partake in activities you love so you can drive the conversation to deeper levels sooner. For example, on Azar, you can directly connect with musicians or sports fans, then get straight to business figuring out whose team will win this weekend.

Casual Encounters

Meeting guys casually is more challenging than online meet-ups because this scenario typically arises by chance. If you see a boy you'd like to speak with, approaching them with a friendly smile, a greeting and a light question about what they're up to will help gauge whether they're interested in talking.

Social Gatherings

Whether a new friend is hosting a party or you attend a community event, social gatherings are a surefire way to meet new guys in person. Because you're both in the same space, it'll be easy to find common ground and develop rapport. Ask why he's come and his favorite thing about the event to start a conversation flowing.

Building and Maintaining Rapport

Establishing and driving great conversation is the fun part. It's time to learn more about your chat partner and let your personality shine. Especially early on, stay authentic and show you care by demonstrating genuine interest in what he has to say. Get things cooking with these tips:

Finding Common Ground

Explore what you have in common with a guy to create a foundational alliance. From there, you have two options: Dive deeper into the link you've discovered, or leverage the subject to pivot and explore other topics.

In general, guys tend to validate ideas  — even though they may agree all the same. Boys also tend to be more upfront when they disagree. If you're unsure whether you're on the same page initially, feel free to ask for some lighthearted feedback.

Sustain Momentum Without Forcing the Conversation

Nobody likes a discussion that dries up faster than a droplet in the desert. In particular, a text conversation can be vulnerable to dragging out since it lacks the face-to-face element.
The key to sustaining conversational flow naturally is to show genuine interest early and often. Ask open-ended questions where he can share a related story or express perspectives without judgment to establish a space where both of you feel comfortable being authentic.

Don't let a few quiet moments intimidate you: While women usually fill conversational gaps with thoughts and reflections, men tend to be comfortable in silence. Tune into his energy and allow the convo to unfold organically.

Moving The Conversation Deeper

Transitioning small talk to deep conversation with guys isn't a big deal once you've built momentum. You'll already know a few things he's into — the next step is to get him talking about them.
Ask about some details to lead the convo into deeper territories, then try to learn about his success stories or how he moved through challenges. Many guys are excellent rational problem solvers so he'll likely share out-of-the-box insights as he opens up.

Tips For Active Listening

Everyone wants to feel respected and heard. Active listening involves offering your full attention while your convo partner speaks and then responding appropriately.
Ask him follow-up questions to show you're engaged and consider turning off your phone notifications to avoid distraction.

Body Language and Non-Verbal Cues

Particularly when meeting online, body language and non-verbal cues have a way of curating deeper connections in conversation. Keeping a straight posture, using your hands to animate words and making eye contact exude confidence — which guys typically respond well to.
Look into the camera now and again to achieve the video equivalent of eye contact, and ensure your full face is in the frame so you can read one another's authentic facial expressions.

What To Do if You Say Something Embarrassing

Said something embarrassing in front of a guy? We've all been there. The best way to soldier on is to laugh it off. Everyone loves a good giggle and men often take a lighthearted approach to goofy behavior.

Plus, showing that you can laugh at yourself — in any situation — is a great confidence booster.

Troubleshooting The Conversation: What if Things Get… Weird?

Spin it as you may, some conversations are downright weird. This can be positive if you're game for quirky topics, though it can be intimidating when you're not. Chatting online with guys from different demographics and cultural backgrounds might leave space for interpretation. Here are some scenarios you may encounter and how to handle them.

• Tone of Voice: Languages, cultures and social influences from across the globe impact our vocal tone. Some guys speak with a stronger edge, and others, softer. Unsure about his intention? Check body language or ask about how he's feeling.
• Connecting With Different Cultures: Cultures place fluctuating value systems on hobbies, finances, career, religion, gender and even appearance. Some of these topics may come up in conversation! If a guy says something that sounds “off,” it may come from a different cultural frame of reference to yours. If you feel uncomfortable, it's OK to tap out.
• Language Differences: You may end up chatting to a guy in his — or your — second or third language. This naturally creates space for misrepresentation. Respectfully clarify if anything sounds misaligned, and once again, if you're uncomfortable feel free to make an exit.
• Building and Respecting Healthy Boundaries: Building boundaries early in an online chat helps you set healthy parameters around how you expect to be treated. They also act as a reference to flag when lines are crossed.
• Topics To Save For Later: If you're meeting friends on platforms like Azar, initiating flirty conversation or discussing anything closely linked to personal beliefs may be better kept on the down low. Stick to lighthearted topics while you're getting to know one another.
• Exiting Gracefully: Whether you're experiencing social anxiety or you feel downright uncomfortable, make a graceful exit. Let them know you need to go, then leave the video chat.

Misinterpreting communication is easy enough when speaking to friends you know well. Leave space for the fact that innocent miscommunication may pop up in the odd online conversation too.
With that in mind, being respectful and respected is also integral to establishing meaningful connections. Comfort and fun are the two main ingredients to fostering healthy friendships.

Over To You: Walk It Like You Talk It

There are innumerable advantages to forming new friendships online with guys worldwide. Learning about cultural perspectives from males' distinct perspectives can open a world of discovery and opportunity for connection.

Azar provides a platform to ignite healthy male friendships via one-to-one video chats in an environment where you can feel safe. All you need to do is create an account and start getting to know new boys instantly. You may even learn to start an interesting conversation with a guy in a new language!

So if you're ready to discover how cool some of the males on planet Earth are, join Azar's community and start chatting now!

*Hyperconnect LLC does not operate these services. Azar is a separate service.